12 Factors To Consider When Choosing A Life Partner

12 steps to consider when choosing a life partner

Written by Ajibike Maryam Olaitan

Ajibike Maryam Olaitan is a motivational writer whose write-ups talks about basic issues and how to get by them. She is also a selfless person and a good listener. When she's not writing, she's trying to learn new things that might be helpful to not just her but also people around her.

July 14, 2021

Choosing a life partner is not as easy as going to the market to get foodstuffs, it is as hard as it gets. You need to ask yourself if you are ready to look beyond his or her flaws if you are ready to not just think about yourself if you are ready to spend the rest of your life with him or her, when things are smooth or not. Selecting a partner for life is one of the most critical decisions you have to make but it can be easy by following the right steps. What are some of the factors to consider when choosing a life partner?

Below Is A List Of Factors To Consider When Choosing A Life Partner

1. Consider The Family Background

Before deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone, it is imperative to know the persons’ family background and traditions that might exist, the persons’ family language, system and behaviour.

It is also important to know the personal relationship with his or her family members, knowing this will enable you to know how the person will relate with your family members.

2. Ask About Their Health Issues

Before choosing a life partner, you need to know the health background of the person to know the health issues the person might have. You need to know the persons’ genotype, blood group and other health issues, this would help you decide whether to continue or let go.

You can also check out these 6 medical tests you need to take before getting married.

3. Are They Hardworking Or Lazy?

Nobody wants a lazy partner. We all want someone hardworking in all aspects, in taking care of the house and also the children.

Therefore, it is important to know if the person is lazy or hardworking.

4. Choose A Partner You Can Rely On

You need to choose someone who you can rely on at all times, someone you can trust to catch you when you fall.

5. Their Ability To Forgive Quickly

Another factor to consider when choosing a life partner is the ability to forgive. Everyone makes mistakes and the ability to look past the mistakes makes your relationship strong. You need someone who can forgive you if it seems impossible.

No relationship is without quarrels, because we were not all brought up the same way, which makes us have different opinions. Choosing a partner who knows how to say “I forgive you” is very important.

6. What Kind Of Character Do They Have

In choosing a partner, character is one of the most important factors to look into. This is because the character is what defines a person, it is the replica of the mirror that reflects the persons’ worth.

You automatically know how a person would turn out in the next 10 years, by the character they portray.

7. Their Level Of Maturity

Age is not an indication of maturity. Someone who is matured physically, emotionally and intellectually must know how to handle issues without bringing a third party into the relationship or how to speak up without starting up a fight.

8. A Sense Of Humour Is Important When Choosing A Life Partner

You need to choose a partner who knows how to make you laugh after a very annoying day at work, someone who knows how to change your sour mood, by bringing up funny conversations.

9. Choose Someone You Are Sexually Attracted To

Choosing a partner who doesn’t believe that sex in a marriage is important, means that there would be an unfulfilled desire in the marriage. You must choose a partner you are sexually attracted to and also someone who is sexually attracted to you.

Trust me, there must be an absolute desire to satisfy each others’ sexual needs, in order not to feel cheated.

10. Choose Someone Who Likes You

Love is not the only factor in a relationship, friendship is also a factor you need to consider. When you are at that point in your life when you have to choose a partner, you need to choose someone who likes you for the imperfect being you are.

You also need to choose someone you like and can tolerate.

11. Mutual Respect Is Important To Consider When Choosing A Life Partner

You obviously do not want to spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn’t acknowledge and respect you. You need to choose a partner who would respect you at all times and also acknowledge your decisions, goals and dreams.

12. Chose Someone God-Fearing

One of the most important factors to consider when choosing a life partner is, choosing someone who loves God. This is important because only then can the person love you too.


I am sure that at some point we have all said to ourselves “she is the one or he is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with”, but then we get disappointed along the road. Disappointments spring up because we don’t try to get to know the person we want to be with, we just fall in love and think that is enough to sustain a relationship. Finding that one person, choosing a life partner is a full-time job, it is not a school course you pick and just drop because it is hard, it is a decision you make to stay put no matter how hard it gets, a “together for worse, for richer or poorer, till death do you part” decision and trust me, you don’t want to be wrong.

The list is unending, you don’t just make use of the above factors, which is why I need you to add your factors to consider when choosing a life partner in the comment section below.

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1 Comment

  1. maryambappa

    Beautiful. Very simple but highly efficient points. when put in practice. Mothers need to try this.


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