It is a standard protocol before marriage in Arewa to check for the suitability of the prospective spouses before the wedding to avoid major problems associated with social mismatches. The groom’s family peruses the bride’s ancestry, kinship, social background, conducts, and reputation while the bride’s family conversely does the same to ensure the feasibility of tying the knot.
These are done to ensure the social well-being of the prospective couple —and the anticipated descendants. There’s also a need to check for some unforeseen health conditions that lead many matrimonial homes to strain and crack. While some factors could be resolved, others could only be managed and brought to terms for negotiation or peaceful annulment of the marriage agreement. This ‘annulment’ thing might sound terrible — especially to the Romeos and Juliets— but is by far more subtle than the deadly effects that would come later.
As part of your efforts to ensure the ‘mutu-ka-raba-takalmin-kaza‘ or ’till death do us apart’ type of marriage that we normally dream of, the following are 6 of the tests that you need to take before getting married.
Tests You Need to Take Before Getting Married
1. Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) Tests
As marital agreement constitutes satisfaction of sexual desire, one of the most important tests to be done before a wedding is for the diseases that are contagious through intercourse. Many people carry STIs that they don’t even know about until later when they transmit it to their spouse and it manifests with devastating consequences.
There’s a need to test for STIs that could be cured like syphilis, gonorrhea, candidiasis, chlamydia, etc. The infected person can get treatment early to avoid transmission. In the case of incurable STIs like HIV/AIDS, the wedding should be canceled. The infected party should enroll in medical management and rather search for an infected fellow to get married to. In case of other incurable conditions Iike Hepatitis, the healthy spouse could be given a vaccine or given prophylaxis for viral suppression in cases of herpes simplex.
2. Genotypic Test
The genotype is the trait that the offspring inherit from parents. Some of these traits are incompatible and when passed to the progeny leads to serious complications and lifelong suffering. It is recommended for the couple to know their genotype status of certain conditions before the wedding to prevent the prospective offspring from avoidable diseases like sickle cell disease.
A person with genotype AA can marry anyone. AS (carrier) can only marry AA and not a fellow AS, while the SS (warrior) can only marry AA. In this 21st century, our emergency rooms are still receiving the ever suffering new sickle cell warriors whom their parents either failed to take the test or ignored the results and get hooked for love. It is a pity that they sacrificed the lives of their kids because of mere emotion.
3. Rhesus Factor Test
It is important to know the Rhesus factor before tying the knot. It’s either their rhesus groups are positive or negative. Mismatch might arises when a mother-to-be is rhesus negative while the father-to-be is rhesus positive.
In situations of rhesus incompatibility, the first child could be born healthy. Subsequent pregnancies might present with hemolytic disease of the fetus. This is a situation where some destructive elements called antibodies leak from the mother to the unborn baby, attack the baby’s blood cells, causing anemia, jaundice, and brain damages, in severe cases followed by death.
4. Fertility Test
In a typical Arewa setting, succession matters a lot. Almost all people who get married have the intention to see the fruits of their ‘hard work’, children! It is therefore important that you consider fertility tests among the tests you need to undergo before getting married. This will help ascertain the possibility of conception and avoid further issues of bareness in matrimonial homes.
The man should be tested for sperm viability while the woman should be tested for egg viability, womb receptivity, and tubes blockage. If one of the parties is found to be sterile, there should be negotiation on what to do. Several options are out there, like in-vitro fertilization, surrogate mothering, adoption, or cancelation of the agreement.
5. Test for Chronic Medical Conditions
These should be part of the tests you need to take before getting married. Chronic medical conditions like hypertension, diabetes, kidney diseases, liver diseases, cancers, and some mental disorders stay until ‘death do apart.’ It’s therefore important for the couple to take the tests before the real ‘coupling’ is done.
6. Drug Tests
Let’s face it, drug test is important before tying the knot these days. One might get hooked up to a drug addict without knowing. Testing for drugs like Codeine, Rohypnol, Valium, cough syrups, and other hard drugs. Weed and cigarettes should also be tested for, and the prospective couple can decide whether to go ahead.
These tests will enable them to know what they are signing up for, get them to start seeking medical attention, and prepare for the future through financial savings and lifestyle modifications.
The above tests will go a long way in reducing the number of preventable health and social crisis that keeps breaking the tie.
Get tested, wed right!