7 Ways You Can Build Confidence In Your Children

Ways you can build confidence in children

Written by Fatima Sheikh

Fatima is a techie who enjoys writing. An avid reader with a passion for innovative impact in her community.

April 14, 2021

Unlike most of my articles focusing on tips for adults looking to improve their soft skills, this article is centered on building confidence in children.

In my experience working with children, I have come to realize that children are very interesting beings and there is so much to learn from them, more than you can imagine. Unlike adults, children are free, adventurous, and confident to do what they want and how they want to. But due to lack of experience, they might require guidance from adults in their lives.

Children are recorders and they watch every move and action adults around them take then replicate that action perfectly. This stage is a very critical stage that determines the type of adult the child is going to become in the future. As an adult or parent with children around, this sensitive stage in the lives of the children requires constant molding and mentoring.

A confident child has more likelihood of being successful at handling life pressure, responsibilities, and negative emotions. I hope these tips will guide you in building confidence in children.

Read: These 11 Activities Can Increase Bonding With Your Child

7 Tips To Building Confidence In Children

1. Be Their Role Model

Be what you want your children to be. The easiest way to make children act a particular way is by being that person yourself. Show them by doing it. Don’t be afraid to show them that it is not easy, but teach them that it is normal to fail and also get up to try again. Walk the walk and see them imitate you.

To know all about role model and mentoring, you can check out this article on why you need a mentor.

2. Positive Self-Talk

You must be kind and use soft kind words with your children. They might test your patience most of the time and it is easy to use a hurtful word on them. These words can affect their self-confidence even till adulthood.

As an adult, you have to be patient with the children and use positive kind words to encourage them.

3. Ensure They Know Your Love Is Unconditional

This is a tricky one and the most misunderstood tip by most adults dealing with children. Some adults believe the best way to show a child you love them is by buying them all the gifts in the world or letting them get away with everything. But the best way you can show a child love is by being present, supportive, encouraging, kindly correcting their faults and mistakes, helping them discover their potentials, and molding them to be great adults.

Make sure you let them know you love them. This always builds their self-confidence.

4. Don’t Compare Them To Others

The best way to destroy your child’s confidence is by comparing them to their siblings or other children. This always leaves a scar on the child till adulthood, making them doubt themselves and see themselves as less than others.

Read: Challenges of Adulthood

You should know that every child is unique and beautifully made different. Treat every child in their unique way and appreciate their uniqueness.

5. Know That Learners Are Leaders

Children are curious and are at a stage in their lives where they enjoy learning and trying out new things. As an adult, you should imbibe the culture of learning in your child. Teach them new skills or enroll them to learn new skills. Learners are naturally ahead of their peers. This is one of the ways you can build the confidence of your child.

You can check how I improved my leadership skills with these 5 tips.

6. Teach Them Failure Is A Temporary Block

Teach your children that failure is part of life and the growth journey is full of stumbling blocks. The world is full of adults who cannot accept failure. So by teaching your children to accept failure, you are building them to be confident adults.

7. Encourage Them To Be Expressive

As an African child, respect is the number one moral attribute taught and encouraged. Teach your children to be expressive in a respectable manner. Decide on strategies to use to express their feelings given their moods and feelings. This will go a long way to build confidence in your children.

To do this, you need to learn about more child psychology.


When dealing with building confidence in children, there are tons and tons of strategies to help them get there. Children are in a delicate stage of their lives where they can be molded to be adults with certain traits. If this stage is gotten right, they can turn out to be great adults.

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