Remember how we grew up believing we will one day be scooped up and saved from our respective dungeons (parents house) by our charming princes? Well, dreams do come true. Even if they sometimes get delayed. What we are most certain of is how parents get short-tempered when you become an adult, especially if you’re done with your first degree and there is still no sign of any prince coming to rescue you. Dealing with the unbearable pressure of being single and unmarried from parents and society can be hard.

Their lack of patience and refusal to understand can drive one to an edge. You could find yourself embedded in frustration which is bound to drag you into depression if you take to heart every single sinister remark, action they and society direct at you for being an adult and still not hooked to someone. But don’t worry, I’ve got you covered.

Here’s How to Deal With the Pressure of Being Unmarried

1. Trust in God

Whether you’re a Muslim or a Christian, you have already been taught the concept of God been the Controller of our lives and affairs. Everything we go through; good or bad are all within His plans for us. Marriage is no exception. So, believe that the reason you are not meeting anyone crazy enough to scoop you legally away is that it is not yet time for that. Having a sincere strong belief of God been the Controller of our affairs have a way of easing situations. It gives you this kind of “whatever will be, will be” vibe. This lessens the mental stress that comes with that constant glaring and pressuring from Society.

Now, when you leave your affairs to the hands of your Maker, you must maintain an honest relationship with him. This type of relationship means doing things he asks of you, e.g. celibacy till after marriage, asking him for things you seriously need (through prayers), etc. Being faithful means fulfilling your part of the bargain. Having it hard to deal with the pressure of being unmarried? Don’t worry. Eventually, things will work out well for you.

2. Don’t Just Date Anybody

Sometimes, pressure from parents stems from their perception of you refusing to make up your mind amongst multiple choices. When they notice you have a lot of boys/suitors calling you, coming to see you, they start getting paranoid. They have no way of knowing those multiple phonecalls/visitations are just flings if you don’t communicate that to them. And just how would you do that? By dropping off those distractions. When nobody is constantly overheating your day with calls or visits, they’ll know you’ve got no one. This will one way or another soften things for you.

It is Time to Let Go of That Person

So, if you know you have boys frequently disturbing your life while exactly not thrilled about giving you a future, it’ll help your case if you start refusing them attention. Better remain single than marry wrong! Be careful though, for these creatures are sinister and cunning. If they know you’re getting desperate, they’ll devise a way of using that against you, in their favor.

3. Pick up a hobby

Something powerful enough to drive your thinking away from the real world. If you can tolerate reading, books are great distractions from the daily hurdles. Why? Your brain gets so warped around unveiling the next course of action/chapter that for a moment, nothing matters to your head but your imagination. If not books, then try gaming, movies, cooking amongst others.

Why You Should Read Books

Anything that might temporarily halt reality for you will be of great help to your mind amidst the pressure turmoil.

4. Get Something to Do

Having an idle mind can get really dangerous. You tend to get emotional stressed over petty things. This is because your mind sits down to overthink all the time, giving big meaning to stuff that are meaningless. If you’re lucky enough to have means of furthering your education, by all means, go back to school. If you’re however not financial stable to do that, then get yourself a job or start a business. In-between organizing yourself for the next day, executing your plans and minding your business, your mind will get so lost in there that you’ll seldom be disturbed by external pressure.

Having an idle mind can get really dangerous. You tend to get emotional stressed over petty things. This is because your mind sits down to overthink all the time, giving big meaning to stuff that are meaningless. If you’re lucky enough to have means of furthering your education, by all means, go back to school. If you’re however not financial stable to do that, then get yourself a job or start a business. In-between organizing yourself for the next day, executing your plans and minding your business, your mind will get so lost in there that you’ll seldom be disturbed by external pressure.

5. Change Environment

Environments do get toxic so if you can find a way of going to new places either for permanent relocation, a temporal one (like vacations), or even if it’s daily, please do. Going to places, meeting new people who know nothing of your predicaments has a way of making you forget them for a brief moment. For instance, have you noticed how you go to school and for a short moment, it’s like you forget all the bad things waiting on you when you get back home? One would say changing spaces is almost therapeutic. Go on walks to places with nice greenery scene, it brings about tranquility.

How to Live a Happy Life

The points raised might help you deal with the pressure of being unmarried, but it won’t stop the criticisms coming your way. When you believe no one has your back covered like your Creator, you become at peace with your self and situation. Not to mention things stop getting at you like they usually do.

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