It is common knowledge on Nigerian Twitter that there’s always a topic that causes outrage on Arewa Twitter every day.
The most recent topic that stirred their interest is a video of a groom in Kaduna state placing a call to his bride after the wedding fatiha to let her know that she was now his wife.
Phone calls from brides to their grooms and vice versa asking if their wedding Fatiha had been conducted has become a recent trend in Arewa (Northern part of Nigeria) due to the nature and process of getting married in the northern culture.
That first Halal Call! pic.twitter.com/dxfn5fF6u3— Message Arewa Blog (@MessageArewa) December 26, 2020
The people of Northern Nigeria, who are predominantly Muslims practice abstinence before marriage, so it is only natural that they’re excited to call their spouse and tell them that they’re legally bound after their wedding fatiha. While some people find the act romantic, a lot more find it repulsing and cringeworthy.
The video at issue is of newlyweds Aliyu Haidar and Maryam, which garnered a lot of attention on the streets of Arewa Twitter. Comments ranging from why the video was captioned “The first Halal call” to why a bunch of grown men were expressing their joy for their friend by shouting uncontrollably have been made.
Which one be halal call again??! https://t.co/hM1mzlQClm— 🔜 𝚂𝙷𝙴𝙸𝙺𝙷 𝙷𝙰𝙽𝙴𝙴𝙵 (@H4N69F) December 27, 2020
Cringe. https://t.co/7NgjNgcVeB— Basma (@Basma_bage) December 28, 2020
Twitter users said it was cringeworthy and extremely childish. Questions have been asked by several users on why newlyweds feel the need to make that phone call after their wedding fatiha.
Who started this trend????? Abeg it should end ASAP https://t.co/e0GQTi1mmG— Myeesha (@hayeeshaali_) December 27, 2020
However, the most asked question has been why the bride called the groom “Yaya” which is a Hausa word used to refer to an older sibling. Sometimes it is used to refer to older cousins too. A lot of people surmised that they were cousins, and that was why the bride called him Yaya while others concluded it was a way of showing affection and respect to her groom.
Maybe they’re cousins and she’s used to calling him that https://t.co/FTMewFH6ru— Fadil (@FvdlI_) December 26, 2020
Although most of the energy the video received was negative, there are still a number of people who found the exchange between the newlyweds romantic. They said it was sweet and yearned for a union of their own. They countered the attacking group’s comments by asking them to let people do what they wish to do, and it was no one’s place to tell the bride what to call her husband.
There were a few clashes between those celebrating with the new couple and those who criticised them because they felt the couple were lacking of bashfulness. They described the act as unappealing. Moreover, they vowed not to do it when their time to get married comes.
Yaya? If my wife calls me yaya aswear that’s the end of the marriage https://t.co/FLg0jlkw27— L̶e̶v̶i̶ A̶c̶k̶e̶r̶m̶a̶n̶ (@Pharooq_Alee) December 27, 2020
It is easy to have an opinion on things one is yet to experience, only time can tell what one would do if they were in the same position, after all new experiences can be overwhelming. Arewa Twitter is a hub of different opinions, both appalling and pleasing. It is left for one to choose which side to pick or if they don’t want to pick a side at all. And if they do, are their words tactful or they are offensive and lacking of logic.
She has the rights to call her husband whatever she deems fit. Rest! https://t.co/QBe7qJzllf— Name can be blank (@AsquareSol) December 27, 2020
Meanwhile, what do you think of this new tradition of calling the bride after the marriage is made official? Do you find it cute and romantic or do you think it is cringeworthy? Tell us in the comments section.