I Am Fat, So?

I am fat, so?

Written by Ajibike Maryam Olaitan

Ajibike Maryam Olaitan is a motivational writer whose write-ups talks about basic issues and how to get by them. She is also a selfless person and a good listener. When she's not writing, she's trying to learn new things that might be helpful to not just her but also people around her.

July 2, 2021

I was at a job interview at a media house recently, all anxious and fully prepared because I had always dreamt of being a T.V personality.

The moment I stepped into the office and noticed that all eyes were on me, I felt my dress was off the hook, went in with full confidence and hope. On getting inside, without even asking for my name or asking to see my CV, I was denied the job!

When I asked for a reason; they couldn’t give me any, except that I would require two seats and a table. I was surprised and demanded a clearer explanation. Without caring about my feelings the interviewer told me that, if I had left some pounds outside I would have gotten the job.

Related: How To Nail A Job Interview In 5 Minutes

When did size become an essential credential for acquiring a job? When did intellect and size start sharing equal percentages?

It’s really upsetting when you try to convince people, that your weight has nothing to do with your brains. I feel you shouldn’t be judged by the size of your jeans but by the size of what you have to offer. Unfortunately, in our world today, it’s a common saying that, big or fat people cannot take the center stage. There is this look you get when you walk past people, they either stare at you disgustingly or laugh at you, mock you or even insult you for being fat.

I wonder why people opt for fat people, especially fat girls out of the world. Fat or big doesn’t mean you cannot do what other people can do, it probably means you have bigger dreams, all you have to do is get up and own it. Truth is, as a fat girl, you have little or no chance of having friends because no one wants to hang around with a big girl, everyone wants a skinny one, one they can relate with easily without having to hear her breath loudly. But, who knows what those really skinny girls go through, just to get fi? I mean, when we all die, the coffin wouldn’t care if you are skinny or fat, so why do we have to discriminate and segregate.

During my school days, I used to feel very uncomfortable, I had little confidence in myself when people called me fat, big, all sort of names. Initially, I used to be the really quiet type and because of my size, I was a victim of circumstance. I did all sorts of exercises, tried my best to lose a little bit of weight.

But then I became inspired by this:

When you are called fat, turn it around, feel good about it, because you are pretty, hot and tempting (PHAT)”.

Queen Latifah

I have been using that against those who called me fat, and it has really helped me greatly. You should too.

To all the fat ladies out there, you can be whoever you want to be, fat or thin, have fun and love yourself. When you hear people call you fat, don’t feel bad, because when you do, it decreases your self-esteem, and as a lady, you wouldn’t want to lose that. We don’t want “them boys” to step on us. You might be thinking, “how can I be fat and still be happy”? It’s possible, you have your pen, write your way to your happiness. I for one am happy being fat, big or chubby as they say.

My advice to you is, don’t listen to what people say because if you do, then you are giving them the keys to your world and that means they would have the power to control you however they want, in any direction and at any given time. Do things that make you extra happy and don’t ever let your size dictate who you really are, you are you for a reason.

Read: Why Body Shaming Needs To Stop

Fat, big or chubby, you have a purpose in life; don’t let your size get in the way. And in case you want to lose weight, do it because you feel like it, not because you feel intimidated.

Always wear clothes that say “I am fat so?

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  1. Muktar

    Enjoyed this…weldone ☺❤

  2. Muktar

    Weldone…I love this ☺❤

    • Ruth Kayode-Ojo

      Nice piece 👍
      Weldone dear

  3. Ayeesha

    I love this write up

    Bodyshamig needs to stop

    • Ajibike Maryam Olaitan

      Of course it has to stop, we cant all be slim.

  4. Islamiyah Adekola

    I enjoyed this piece
    Give us more of this 😍

  5. Ayo Tokode

    This piece is instructive.Phat ladies must not allow themselves to be talk down om

    • Chinanu

      You nailed it. People should be given a fair chance to prove themselves. We must never allow the opinion of others to define how we feel about our selves. Beautiful write up .

      • Ajibike Maryam Olaitan

        thank you

  6. Taiye

    I love this……😊😊😊😊😊Plus size ladies should be appreciated by all and not to be insulted

    • Ajibike Maryam Olaitan

      appreciation is key.

  7. Valentine

    Great write up

    • Aisha Zakari

      I enjoyed reading this..

  8. Muhammed Faruk Yunusa

    This is an awesome write up baby girl. Keep up the good work. I love this 🤩🤩🤩

  9. Ajibike Maryam Olaitan



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