17 Marriage Preparation Tips for Every Intending Couple

17 Marriage Preparation Tips for Every Intending Couple

Have you been pondering over the things you need to know or do before marriage? If yes, you’re at the right place! Just stay with me as I guide you through some marriage preparation tips.

Most of the marriages that crumbled, crumbled not because the couples aren’t in love, but because they failed to know some things that they ought to have known before even settling down. You wouldn’t want to have a failed marriage, would you?

The moment you decide to marry, know that you have embarked on a journey and there are important things to know and take along with you. Here are some marriage preparation tips to guide you through this journey:

Marriage Preparation Tips

1. Make Up Your Mind

This may sound easy, but trust me, if you carelessly overlook it, you will have yourself to blame.

Making up one’s mind is about coming to terms with their mind; they have to be on the same page. You can’t want to do something while your mind is thinking differently.

You do not want to prepare for a marriage you are not confident in, or still have lingering doubts about; this is a strong factor that could lead to failure in marriages.

2. Pray About It

Having made your mind up on settling down, as normal or conventional as it may sound, you need to pray. The northern part of Nigeria is arguably the most religious part of the country – Islam and Christianity and the two major religions. Both religions believe that whenever you set your mind on doing something, only your efforts or hard work won’t suffice, you also have to pray about it.

After all, marriage is not like an item of clothing, when it gets old or no longer fits you, you discard or give it to another person, NO. It’s a lifetime something. You need God’s interference, don’t you?

Prayer is the key to everything. So pray!

3. Discuss Responsibilities

To avoid responsibility clashes here and there, you need to discuss responsibilities.

There are of course responsibilities in every household. There is a need for you two to discuss and share those responsibilities. Some responsibilities are peculiar to men (like fending for the family) while others are to females (like childbearing, tidying up the house, etc.), and some are for both.

However you decide to share, it is ok as long as no one feels overburdened or cheated. Ensure to make it very clear.

You could also read on: Managing Shared Responsibilities.

4. Have a Role Model Couple

Having a role model is one of the marriage preparation tips you need to put into consideration. That role model could be some influential persons, friends, relatives, or even your parents. You chose them because they’ve been in marriage for a long time and have amassed themselves with a wealth of marital experiences.

They will come in handy when you have a problem with your spouse that needs to be resolved.

5. Try to Be Independent

In a typical northern Nigerian setting, a wife is a very dependent being. She engages in little or no productive stuff but is very productive when it comes to demand. As a female, you do not want to be that; your husband will love you less.

Most men nowadays do not even want a dependent woman, we prefer an independent woman – a woman who does some things for herself and can come to the aid of the family when the need arises. Unfortunately, some men nowadays have their eyes on their partner’s money. Guys, when you become too demanding, she gets tired of you too – it’s a two-way thing.

My advice for you is, try as much as possible to be independent.

Related:How Being Independent Can Keep You From Breaking Up.

6. Take a Genotype Test

Genotype is the genetic makeup of an individual passed from his parents. We have 4 types of genotypes: AA, AS, SS, AC. As an AA, you can marry any person regardless of their genotype – as a matter of fact, it is more advisable to not marry an AA, but any other genotype.

You and your partner must go for this test and be sure you two are compatible. If you aren’t, forget about that marriage. I know it’s not easy, but it’s better than what you will face in the future.

Go for that test NOW if you haven’t.

7. Be Yourself

Being you as one of the marriage preparation tips is paramount for a successful marriage. Do not be deceptive, show your true self – this doesn’t imply that if you have a bad habit, keep it, NO, change it. Let your partner get to know the real you so they don’t see someone different in you that they already know after marriage.

A piece of advice from me to you is “Never lie to satisfy somebody for a moment because the pain that you cause them in the future can last them for a lifetime”.

Please, be YOURSELF!

8. Mind Your Expenditure

One of the marriage preparation tips I’ll be sharing with you is ‘being mindful of your expenditure‘ – this is mostly for men. You need to know that you are about venturing into something way different from the life of a single person. Scale-preference your needs and concentrate on only the important ones.

Do not be tempted to go overboard when spending. Begin to train yourself to spend wisely, that skill will come in handy in your marital life.

9. Decide on Family Size

Deciding on the size of the family you both need or want is an important marriage preparation tip. You should know that a large family size comes with greater responsibilities and vice-versa.

Decide on the number of children you intend to have, and advisably, that should be proportionate to your income and available time – you need money to take care of the family needs and your children need your time as well.

Please, do not give birth to children you cannot cater for; that would be a very cruel thing to do to your children and society at large.

10. Be Obedient and Respectful

You need to be obedient and respectful to your partner. This mostly goes to females. You need to know that we men have ego and pride the size of Mount Everest. We, humans, want to be obeyed and respected by people or our subordinates, but for men, hmm, it’s something else. My dear future bride, have that obedience and respect coming your husband’s way non-stop.

Do not relent on this, DO NOT!

11. Stop Thinking Me, but Us

You need to know that marriage involves two people doing things together for the whole of their lives. As a result, you need to stop thinking about yourself whenever you want to do or say something, you should always consider your partner’s wishes and wants as well. Considering each other not only avoids unpleasant situations but strengthens your marriage beyond negative external forces.

12. Avoid Pre-Marital Sex

This is a big one. In the modern-day world, pre-marital sex has become a normal thing. Unfortunately, some tribes in Nigeria encourage it. However, it isn’t a good practice. There are repercussions to the act.

It brings about less trust in your partner on the issue (sex). You will be suspecting your partner whenever you see them with the opposite sex or when they are not around – say, when they come back home late, or when they are on a business or an official trip. And ‘trust’ my dear, is very important in a marriage. The moment you start suspecting your partner, that marriage is dead already.

Another advantage of not having pre-marital sex is that you don’t get to have a preference, whatever and however your man or woman is, you will be content, mostly.

So, my advice for you is, DON’T engage in pre-marital sex.

13. You Need to Be Patient

Whether it’s marriage or business, patience is the first rule of success

William Feather

One of the marriage preparation tips worth noting is ‘being patient’. There are lots of ups and downs in marriages. No marriage is free from troubles and hurdles. You have to find a way to deal with them as they come, and the best way to achieve that is by being patient with your partner and your marital life.

14. Test Their Patience Too

You will need to know how patient your partner is in terms of misunderstanding. For me, the best way to do that is by getting in a good fight – a very good one intentionally, and then see how they react. If they react favourably, then go for them, and if they react violently, I suggest you leave them. Do you know why? Because there are lots of ugly fights waiting for you in marriage, you do not want to take them (the fights) lightly.

15. Talk about Faith (Religion)

Before venturing into any marriage, talk about religious beliefs with your partner. It’s much easier if you’re both practicing the same religion because all you need to do is decide when and how religious practices should be carried out in the family. If you practice different faiths, you seriously need to have that talk.

Religion is a very sensitive thing now. Ensure that you set boundaries you both should not cross and respect each other’s faith. Any mistake could be disastrous. You should also decide on the faith of your children, the earlier you do that, the better.

You could also read on: Why Setting Boundaries in a Relationship is Important

16. Learn to Forgive

Another important marriage preparation tip worth practicing is ‘forgiveness’. Whenever your spouse upsets you and asks for forgiveness, forgive them. Forgive them even if they don’t ask for it, at least, so you could have a rest of mind.

Do not continue to dwell on previous mistakes of your partner because more are coming. When the problems become much, you lose control of yourself. So, forgive them to have a healthy marriage.

17. Be a Supporter

As a future husband, know that you need to support your future wife in terms of providing for her basic needs, and in whatever good she’s doing. And as a future wife, you need to be like a backup plan for your husband – be that kind of wife that your husband can rely on or fall back to when he is down financially or emotionally.

Support each other in good and unfortunate times.

Conclusion

There are tons of marriage preparation tips, some of which I haven’t included in my write-up – like trust, honesty, being faithful, trustworthy, etc. This is because I didn’t want to bore you with a lot to read. Notwithstanding, the above-mentioned tips should be enough guide for you to consider before tying the knot.

If you find this article interesting, please leave a comment on the comments section below, and also tell us other marriage preparation tips I haven’t mentioned. Thank you.

You could also read on: 10 Things Every Marriage Needs and 10 Things to Do at the Start of Every Relationship.

10 Things Your Partner Should Never Ask You to Do

10 Things Your Partner Should Never Ask You to Do

There should never be inequality and disrespect in a relationship but rather, your partner should let you be you and do you. In this article, I’ll be running you through things your partner should never ask you to do.

“I love you to the moon and back, I’ll do anything for you”

“I’ll move mountains, heaven, earth and then swim across the ocean, just to do anything for you”

Yes, when we’re in a relationship, it’s only natural you’d want to do all and anything for the person you love but an ideal and great partner is someone who is always supportive, loving, trustworthy, thoughtful, and above all, has your best interest at heart.

10 Things Your Partner Should Never Ask You to Do

1. Give up Something You Love

I know relationships call for sacrifices but not a complete submissive one where it makes you unhappy or does things you don’t want to.

Your partner asking you to give up on something you love means they are asking you to give up on what makes you whole, what gives you peace of mind, what makes you sane, and what makes you happy. This is selfish of your partner as they are not putting your interest at heart and this is non-negotiable.

2. Quit Something You Love

This is something I’ve noticed is mostly done to ladies. You tend to give up your love for a hobby – hair styling, baking, cooking, fashion designing, or law career.

Yes, you love your partner to the moon and back but accepting to quit what you love for them is not proof of your love at all. If your partner is asking you to quit something you love and is not at least compensating you with something greater that is comforting – this should be a NO.

If you’re asked to quit your job which is a pay of 250k monthly and they are willing and able to give you that 250k to do so, now that’s negotiable. This is one of the things your partner should never ask you to do.

3. Put up With Unacceptable Behaviours from Friends and Family

When it comes to things your partner should never ask you to do, this should not even be a topic of discussion and should not be accepted no matter how much you want to move that mountain for them. Let that mountain remain the way it is, don’t move it.

“We want you to stop working”

“I want you to be a full-time housewife”

Their friends and family should accept you for who you are and not be rude to you, or even ask you about things you don’t want to. There should be respect from both parties. Remember, your partner even asking this of you should be telling you he only cares, values, and cherishes his own and that is wrong. Your partner’s love towards you is how their parents will love you – let him love and treat you right.

In general, your partner should not ask you to accept unacceptable/uncomfortable behaviors from friends and family and you definitely should not ask that of him too.

Your partner should not ask you to do things in the bedroom you’re not comfortable with. Take, for instance, you hate doggy style/anal sex or you hate it when he uses objects on you, you talk to him about it. Him asking you to tolerate such should not be a topic of discussion, make it clear that you do not like such.

4. Keeping You Away from Friends and Family

Your partner should never ask this of you but here, there’s room for negotiation which is limiting the time you spend out with friends and family due to the kids, your safety, chores, or your career. Our husbands are our kings and as such we should always respect them.

But when they start asking you to not spend time with your friends and family at all, that’s when you don’t accept. They should know you cherish and love your friends and family and that’s selfish of them to ask such.

5. Coverup for Domestic Violence

First off, speak up if you’re being battered in your own matrimonial home – cry out for help, talk to friends and family. Say NO to abusive and domestic violence.

Your partner should not ask you to lie or cover up a bruise they gave you due to a mistake you made neither should they ask you not to tell your friends and family. There’s no reason or justification for such an act.

Your partner should never lay their hands on you, ever. This is harmful to you, your health, and your kids as you’re subconsciously ruining what marriage should be for them.

6. Change Yourself Completely

Your partner should not ask this of you and you should never accept this. You’re YOU and that’s your superpower.

A partner asking this of you is only abandoning you both emotionally and physically – and you should never feel alone and abandoned in a relationship. It’s a relationship remember, it takes two to work.

Your partner rather should love and accept you for who you are, correct you when you’re in the wrong, support you, and guide you.

7. Do Drugs

Among the things your partner should never ask you to do, this is my second best. Your partner should not tell you to pick up bad habits and you should never accept this in a bid to move a mountain. Picking up bad habits like doing drugs is harmful to you, your health, and the relationship and it is unhealthy.

Such a partner tends to have a controlling edge over you and trust me, you don’t want that. A controlling personality weakens you, your strength and restrains you from having your own free will of thinking. Stand up and say NO to drugs.

8. Agree to/with Everything They Tell You

Saying “Yes love” every time to your partner is unhealthy especially when you’re being compelled to. You should tell them the truth and they should listen and understand if they are wrong and make adjustments too if need be.

You’re entitled to your opinions, options, and saying ‘no’ to something you find wrong. Tell them the truth always, that’s how you move mountains not by lying because you’re trying to please them. Always stand your right – let them hear the truth. This is a thing your partner should not ask you to do.

9. Give up Your Religion

Changing your beliefs, values, and religion just because you’re trying to please someone and showing them you love them should never cross your mind. Never sacrifice that just because they ask you to.

I know people change religions but that is because they want to and that is okay, we respect everyone’s decision without judging them but do not change your religion just because they ask you to.

No, stand for your right and tell them you won’t, but if the thought crosses your mind, let it be that you’re doing that for you and not for them. If that mountain doesn’t want to stay because you said NO, then let it move in another direction.

10. Include Someone into Your Sexual Life

When it comes to things your partner should never ask you to do, this is my top 1. Your partner even asking this should be an eye-opener that they do not value what they have with you neither do they respect your body.

Your partner should not ask you to have a threesome with us friends or your friends or some stranger from the street. You also should not think of accepting this and it is non-negotiable as this is preposterous. If your love and sex life is boring, there are things you could do like see a therapist or start all over again and if it’s not working, there are other people who will move mountains for you.

Conclusion

Your partner should never ask you to be someone else other than your true and original self. Don’t let them pressure you into doing things that make you uncomfortable just because you’re trying to please them – it’s a relationship, lookout for signs of a controlling person before going into it.

Communicate about what they might be doing as some might be doing so without their knowledge but never, do not negotiate your happiness because you want to move that mountain to please them.

I might have missed a thing or two, comment below, and let’s talk about it.

10 Things You Must Do at the Start of Every Relationship

10 Things You Must Do at the Start of Every Relationship

A relationship is a way in which two people or two groups feel about each other and behave towards each other. To me, a relationship is when two people in love with each other are ready to break all odds to be together and planning to keep it that way till death do them part. If a relationship is like that, then there is a need for one to know how to make it right to avoid unforeseen ugliness later thus: Things to do at the start of every relationship.

Recommended Things to Do at the Start of Every Relationship

1. Be Ready for The Relationship

Being in a relationship is like a full-time job, don’t think about applying if you are not ready

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Yes, being ready is one of the things to do at the start of every relationship. It is paramount that before you start anything in life, you need to be physically and emotionally ready to be able to achieve your goal. Relationships can’t be excluded.

Ask yourself these questions about your partner: “Who is this person to me?” and “Why am I taking them as a partner”. The first question will tell you how important they are to you or otherwise, while the second question tells you reasons why you should proceed with the relationship or bailout.

Any outcome short of your expectations could be a bad idea to venture in; make a wise decision – a decision future you won’t say “I wish I never started this relationship”

2. Be Yourself

Being oneself is the best way to live one’s life. You can’t be someone else. Never. Trying to be someone else in a relationship is a wrong move. Let your partner know the real you so they can decide whether or not you are good to go. Let them love and respect you for who you are.

Though if you have a habit generally regarded as unacceptable, you will need to let go because nobody likes bad habits.

So, be yourself!

3. Know Your Genotype and Blood Group

These are two of the five medical tests you should have before marriage. Genotype is the genetic makeup of an individual passed from the parents. We have 4 types of genotypes: AA, AS, SS, AC. The first three are common while the other isn’t.

Blood group on the other hand is the carrying of two antigens (A and B) during the transportation of oxygen by red blood cells. The antigens determine the blood group of an individual. The blood groups are represented with A, AB, O, and B.

It is important for a couple in a relationship wanting to settle down or otherwise to know their genotypes and blood groups before they are deeply in love. Any wrong combination could be a lifetime disaster. Break up if you two are not compatible; this will prevent giving birth to children with sickle cell thereby, making life difficult for both the parents and the child.

You can also read on the importance of knowing your blood group and genotype before marriage here.

4. Don’t Compare to Your Ex

We, humans, have the proclivity of comparing things that we have now with those that we once had. If you have been in one relationship or the other before your present partner, you need to shut that memory dead no matter how memorable they are. You can’t be comparing your partner with another person; it’s a huge deal-breaker.

For the relationship to foster, you need to see your partner as unique in their way. No one is perfect!

5. Make Sure There is Constant Communication

Communication is key to a flourished relationship. Since you are at the beginning of the relationship, make sure to check up on your partner regularly; not too regularly that they get bored of you.

Ensure you keep reassuring them that they are a part of you. That can be achieved greatly through constant communication.

During disagreements, things can be set straight if communication is done effectively. Of course, not every couple even know how to communicate without starting an argument. We all know that no relationship is problem-free but with communication, it reduces significantly.

6. Be Honest

Honesty as one of the things to do at the start of every relationship, is a moral character that defines a person as trustworthy, straightforward, loyal, fair, sincere, and not characterized by lying, theft, etc. You will need to be all of these and more to be tagged ‘honest’.

Do not give your partner any room to doubt you; doubt kills a relationship faster than infidelity. Always be truthful in whatever you say or do.

The moment they realize you have been untrue to them or you have something up your sleeves, BOOM! That ends it. You wouldn’t want that, right?

7. Be Very Observant

I do not believe in the cliché ‘love at first sight but rather ‘attraction at first sight’. You are attracted to them and have even considered dating them, but you can’t afford to be relaxed. NO. You can’t sit back and fold your arms thinking everything is right simply because of that attraction. That’s a very dumb thing to do.

Every little detail counts. Observe your partner’s move and attitude every now and then (I do not mean like a spy, stalker or secret agent), no. You need to be sure they are worth going on that long journey with you. After your observation, make a choice.

Wise man see, wise observed, wise man then is compelled to do all which is right to all that he has observed earlier.

Gary Tolan aka King Tola

8. Set Boundaries

To have a healthy relationship, you need to set some boundaries. You need to let your partner know about your likes and dislikes, dos and don’ts, and make sure they are strongly adhered to. If they care about you and the relationship, they will never try to trespass those boundaries intentionally. If you notice otherwise, then be sure to have an uncomfortable relationship if you choose to continue.

Don’t forget to respect your partner’s likes and dislikes too. Respect should be reciprocal.

9. Look Out for Compatibility

Compatibility in a relationship means that both partners understand and accept each other’s life philosophy and goals, as well as genuinely enjoy being around each other without feeling preoccupied with what they feel needs to change within their partner.

A relationship is said to be compatible if both partners are willing to agree on certain core values irrespective of their differences.

You need to look out for compatibility as one of the things to do at the start of every relationship. Make sure you agree on things like dress sense, social status, intellect, likes and dislikes, and so on.

Is your partner like you? You can answer this question even though the relationship might be early, but you can still tell it is or isn’t by applying your observational skills.

10. Know Your Partner’s Family Lineage

In addition, one of the things to do at the start of every relationship is by knowing your partner’s family lineage. Ascertain whether or not your partner’s family has any trace of hereditary diseases such as Muscular dystrophy, sickle cell, Huntington’s disease, haemophilia, tay-sachs and cystic fibrosis. Diabetes is also a hereditary sickness – lookout for it.

With that said, no one would want to venture into a relationship where their partner’s family lineage has hereditary diseases. It’s for your children’s sake, so don’t compromise!

Conclusion

You need to know or do all the above-mentioned things quickly before you get too attached. If you get too attached before doing or noticing, it will be difficult for you to leave. You will end up making compromises, and my dear, making too many compromises bring down a relationship.

If you find this article worthwhile, please leave your thoughts in the comments section. You could also tell us if there are things that I missed out.

13 Proven Ways to Make Someone Love You

13 Proven Ways to Make Someone Love You

Have you been crushing on someone and they haven’t noticed you? Have you ever loved somebody so much that it makes you cry? Again, have you fallen out of love in the sight of someone who loves you before but no longer does now? Have you ever needed someone so bad that they gave you insomnia? Do you want to know how to get someone to like you? If yes, this post is for you.

How to get someone to like you could be easy if you know your ways; It could also seem like a huge task before you if you aren’t confident or have lost words and what to do to get them to notice and like you.

Stay with me as I lift that huge burden off your chest by guiding you on what and how to do to make them like you. Thus,

Proven Ways to Get Someone to Love You

1. Show Interest in Everything They Do

This works wonders I tell you. By nature, humans tend to be attracted to people who like what they are interested in and be repellant to people who don’t. Have you ever wondered why you go to a certain place, say a football viewing centre for the first time and you get along with the people you meet there just fine? Or a gym centre, cinema, or party etc.? Now you are saying “It’s true” in your mind, right? Good.

That’s how it works. Show them you are interested in whatever they are interested in, however good, foolish or absurd their interest may be. They will come to you if not now, someday.

2. Be with Them When the Road is Rough

In life, things do not go your way all the time. Sometimes, you put all the necessary things in place to achieve a goal but turns out negative. That’s how life is.

For instance, your crush that was well-to-do becomes needy as a result of fraud, termination of appointment or the likes, of course, they will be depressed and most people around them – friends, colleagues or even family may flee from them. This is a golden opportunity for you, show them you will always be there for them no matter the situation. Show them lots of care and watch how they tilt their attention towards you.

3. Be Respectful to Them

You can get someone to like you by being respectful to them, their friends, family and their decisions. This is very important. It’s their life and you are not dating so you have no right whatsoever to question their decision. Just follow! In the event that you find some of their decisions to be wrong, you can try to fix that diplomatically – do not be too forward about it though.

4. Always Check Up on Them

Communication is key, always know that. Communicating with them will always give them the impression of “this person is really caring and shows concern about me”. By ignoring them or treating them like every other normal person, won’t help you a bit. You need to show them you care by texting, calling, or visiting. This reassures them they are always on your mind. This works wonders I tell you.

However, remember to keep it minimal or else, you can kiss them goodbye!

5. Get Them Gifts on Special Occasions

Furthermore, it will interest you to know that gifts have a special way of making people happy. Of course, isn’t that what you want with your crush? Why hesitate?

Get them something nice on occasions that mean so much to them. Yes, something nice. But before doing that, make sure it’s what they desire first else, the aim will be defeated. If he is a fan of computer games for instance, get him a PS Five or something you could afford, and get her a makeup kit if she is a make-up freak.

6. Sympathize with Them in Sad Moments

In life, everyone will definitely come across a sad moment, say they lost a family member, a friend or lost their job. This is a great opportunity to shoot your shot. Get them to notice how caring and concerned you can be for them in situations like that. You may even want to shed tears for acting sake, but be sure not to overdo it.

7. Pay Them Casual Visits

You can get someone to like you by paying them casual visits every now and then. Visiting them is another way of reassuring them that you have an interest in them. Be sure to dress well and smell nice – smelling nice alone can make someone have interest in you. I wish all guys and ladies know this.

However, when you visit too often, most especially as a lady, they tag you as ‘a clingy’ person and that my dear, maybe the end of the road for you.

8. Care for Their Family

As you know, nobody grew on trees, we all have families. So, try and know his/her family and be nice to them. In addition, attend whatever occasion they invite you to, visit them from time to time, show them you love them and assure them that your crush is going to be fine with you. If you are lucky, they may assist you in luring your crush’s heart to yours.

9. Make Compromises

‘How to get someone to like you’ can be a walk in the park with compromise. You should know that you can’t have a healthy relationship without compromise. Be ready to forfeit a part of what you want for their attention. Don’t worry, that isn’t going to last for long. When you finally get their attention, you can diplomatically switch to your normal self if you so wish.

A point worth noting is that two smart people can’t be in a relationship and the relationship be healthy, NO WAY. For a healthy relationship, one must play the idiot!

10. Don’t Be Jealous

At this stage of your relationship with them, try as much as possible not to show them you are jealous when occasions to show jealousy call for that, say – you see them with their current partner or a friend of the opposite sex. Remember, you are not dating yet so as a matter of fact, you’re not in a position to tell them who and who not to be with. If you do, chances are they know for sure you like them thus, they may begin to consider you, or you just shot yourself on the foot! The latter is usually the case.

11. Take Them on an Outing

Yes, you saw it right! Take them on an outing. It mustn’t necessarily be to a fancy restaurant or an amusement park, but a place with beautiful vegetation will do, or by simply walking down the street with them. This also gives you the opportunity to talk with them and get to know them better. Don’t be shy as is the case of most ladies, just go for it.

You can also read on: 20 Fun Things to Do on a First Date

12. Be Honest

Honesty is very important in every aspect of human life. A relationship isn’t excluded. Be trustworthy and truthful in your dealings with them. An endeavour that no lies come out of your mouth, be straightforward.

When they finally get to know you lied about just a thing, all others may seem like lies to them and you know what that means – relationship baje!

13. Tell Them You Love Them

This is the ultimate way – walking up to them and telling them how you feel. For most men, this is a simple task but for women, it’s a huge one. Ease the burden on your chests and tell them you like them straight up!

I wish society can be a little bit fair to women. Why can’t a woman confront a guy she is into without been ridiculed or downgraded or looked at as cheap?

For guys, just continue doing your thing. Na the normal thing na!

You can also read on: How to Tell Someone You Like Them (And Not Ruin the Relationship)

Conclusion

How to get someone to like you can be pretty easy and difficult at the same time. Your ability to succeed is highly reliant on your personal abilities. You’ve set a goal already, what next is strategizing on how to achieve that goal. Having put all of that in place, just GO FOR IT!

Don’t beat yourself up when it turns out unfavourable, at least, you know you have tried your best and that you guys are just not meant to be. I believe someone out there is waiting for someone exactly you, yes YOU.

But, just know how to play your cards!

If you find this article helpful, let me know in the comment session. It may interest you to read on: 12 Factors to Consider When Choosing a Life Partner and How to Make Your Crush Like You.

15 Number of Ways You Can Tell They like You

15 Number of Ways You Can Tell They like You

There are different ways to tell if someone likes you or not, but you have to be very careful not to misinterpret peoples’ gestures. Any mistake could be very embarrassing and in some cases, disastrous.

Knowing if someone likes you or not can be easy, difficult, or tricky depending on your intellect and observation skills. Nevertheless, if you want to know whether or not someone likes you, in general, here are some signs to look out for:

Ways You Can Tell They Like You

1. They like to Be Wherever You Are

It is normal for one to like to be close to their crush. There is this feeling of satisfaction they get when they are close to you. They mustn’t necessarily be beside you to feel that, but your presence in the environment they are in suffices.

2. They Make Eye Contact

One of the ways to tell if someone likes you is by making eye contact with you frequently. Making eye contact with someone could either be mistakenly or intentionally. In this case, it’s intentional; you know it is when your eyes meet and they tend to take it off you immediately and put them back on when you look away.

3. They Feel Secure

This is only applicable to ladies. There is this sense of security a lady feels when she is with the man she loves. She can go as far as been disrespectful to someone in your presence knowing that you will be there to defend her.

4. They Always Want to Hear from You

You can tell they like you when they talk to you too often physically, or send you messages or call you on your cellphone regularly. When you meet, they tell you how happy they are when they communicate with you, or you get to hear that from their close friends or family.

5. They Like Whatever You Like

If he/she is an acquaintance, they tend to like whatever you show interest in and dislike whatever you dislike that they initially do not care about. And if he/she isn’t an acquaintance, they like or dislike what you are interested in, naturally.

6. They Always Start a Conversation

Since they want to spend more time with you, they will want to converse with you more often, thus, initiating a conversation almost always at the slightest opportunity they get. They can start with any question that pops up in their head even if the aura isn’t right.

It happened to me when I was chatting with a lady some time ago, she said “Hi” and I responded, then we started conversing and there was a pause because we ended the conversation we were having. We were both online and the next thing, she sent another “Hi”. It’s obvious she wanted a piece of my time but didn’t even know how to initiate a new conversation.

It might interest you to read on 16 Tips on How to Keep a Conversation Going With Someone You Like

7. Wanting to Know More about You

Your crush will always want to gather sufficient information about you (for those who are interested in a committed relationship) to know if you two are compatible or not.

They tend to ask questions like “Do you have any brothers or sisters?”, “What are your likes and dislikes?”, “What is your ideal kind of wife?” etc. The questions may be even personal as they get to know you more.

8. Not Acting Normal

One of the ways to tell if someone likes you is when they start acting weird around you. In the case of ladies, they begin to play with their hair and/or smile and laugh at anything you say or do, and for guys, they begin to overdo things around you – things to impress you like trying so hard to be funny. 

9. They Find Everything You Say Hilarious

This is most common among ladies. Whatever you say is funny even if it is not. You know, there is the weird sound a fake laughter sounds. You can easily detect it without even trying.

10. They Keep Track of Everything You Do

You can tell they like you when they can remember every little detail about you – things that you may have forgotten you told them. Sometimes, they even remember

They remember the relationship between you and every friend of yours that you have introduced them to and/or told them about, so also, your close relatives and anyone around you. In addition, they can even remind you of your monthly cycle or your college lecture schedule!

They can do all of that and more without stress whatsoever.

11. If They Smile Unnecessarily

Furthermore, one of the ways you can tell if someone likes you is when they smile unnecessarily.

By just staring at you, you find them smiling, sometimes, uncontrollably. I believe you must have experienced that with someone you were or are into.

In a conversation, they smile not because what you are saying is interesting or you are that attractive or funny, but they just find themselves doing so subconsciously – you can tell by obvious signs of them not paying attention to you.

12. They Have Told Their Friend(s) about You

When a guy or girl likes you, they wouldn’t mind telling the world about you, most especially their friends and family. When that gets to your hearing, know that they are into you. This is one of the ways to tell if someone likes you.

13. They Tell You Personal Details about Themselves: 

Personal details about one are shared with someone you are very close to like a trusted friend or family relation, usually. Because they are into you and want you to be a part of their world, they share with you. Personal details like their family problems or their sexuality are very personal stuff in the Northern part of Nigeria, notwithstanding, they tell you.

14. They Find Excuses to Touch You

You can tell they like you when they try to touch you at every slightest opportunity they have got, though not common in the North compared to other regions in the country, some people do that. They always try to sit close to you or ask you to play a game that requires you to be close to them like Ludo or Whot. Your company is what they never stop craving for.

15. They Communicate Freely

Normally, you find yourself communicating freely without someone you ordinarily like not to talk of someone you are crushing on. They are not too mindful or choosy of what they say or discuss with you.

Conclusion

Personally, I tend to find women easier to read than men. Both sexes are driven by different things. Ladies are mostly emotionally unstable compared to men, thus, leaving them more vulnerable to be noticed by men. Regardless, just know that you have to be very careful in your judgement.

If you find this article interesting, kindly leave a comment below, and also share with us if you think there is/are point(s) I omitted. Thank you.

Related: This is How You Make Your Crush Like You and 10 Signs that Show You Are in a One-Sided Relationship

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